The Most Important Part of Relationships (to me)

To me the biggest part of relationships is trust, honesty, and respect. It is a "gimme" that one should trust a friend and that friends should be honest, but to me being respectful of ones emotions is an equally large part. Friends should understand their other friends, if one is a true friend, and that bond of trust is there, then this should not be a problem because of the relationship that has already formed. In the case of forming new relationships it is crucial to be considerate of others emotions and take into account how the feel about certain things you do or say. For example profanity. Hypothetically; I swear profusely and say all kinds of vulgarity, but there is this girl that i really like and want to spend all my time with. Now she knows that I use profanity, but she doesn't like it so I don't use it around her. She can see that I care enough about our relationship that I am respecting her feelings about profanity. This is one of the things I am talking about. Another would be lying. This, however, also ties in with honesty. Let's say that you lie to one of your best friends. Just a small lie, no big deal right? Wrong. When/if they find out, it is going to be so much worse than what would've happened if you told the truth. Now "Where does the respecting emotions come into effect?" you may ask. Well I'll tell you, remember this is just my opinion, but the worst part about being lied to, is finding out that you weren't worth the truth. Imagine if you lied to your best friend about going to a party and having a beer or two. Now imagine what would've happened if they found out you lied to them. They would worry that you would start drinking all the time, they would get paranoid about everything else that you have said. they would also be really upset that you lied to them about something so minuscule that if you would've told them in the first place, they probably wouldn't have cared that much and this never would've gotten blown out of proportion. This is where the trust comes into affect. If you really trust your friends then there is no reason to lie to them.

so school. it's stressful. i figured everyone would be more mature here. but i don't guess so. there are some who are. but most of my fellow freshman are just out of high school and haven't grown up yet. i know a lot of people here. but i'm being forced to move around and rotate groups so much, that no one gets to know the actual me. they just see my annoying characteristics. which when people judge right off after like 3 days gets on my nerves. but i did get some helpful advice and i'm gonna work on it. my attitude and my self pity. i am just getting annoyed at the fact that i have to keep moving around and changing groups because they don't tell me what i am doing to bother them. but i got someone to tell me. it's just stressful when i can tell that i am bothering them but they won't tell me i am. and it makes me feel worse. there is also a lot of other drama here at school. people who need to learn to grow up because they are in college.